To Be Themselves

Perhaps my favorite experience in relating with others is to notice the shift in energy when someone I love fully relaxes in my presence.

When I watch them finally surrender into trusting their okay-ness within the light of my love.

When I work with clients around relationship dynamics, the block is often that we cram others into confining roles of relational extraction; we relate through various unmet needs.

When we need other people to keep us safe, bolster our egos, give us meaning, or heal our wounds, we can’t let them be human at the same time.

But once we take personal responsibility for our own healing, our safety, our own spiritual journey and meaning-making, our partners and friends are SET FREE.

From here we can actually love them. Because we have stopped excavating them for goods and services, assets or experiences.

And from there, they can relax back and be unconditionally loved.